Faulty marital foundations (4).

Faulty marital foundations (4).
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Bitterness from previous relationships. A person is the product of the relationships he or she has passed through - all the relationships; good and most
commonly bad. They affect your life one way or the other. Some men or (especially) women in this case put in all the best of efforts and sacrifice to make-up a
worthless man into a husband! When,after all this sacrifice,the partner is still not the one they dreamt him to be,they give up after several tasking last-ditch effort to live under an illussion. The resultant effect on their lives is that even though such men/women mostly end up having very reasonable partners,they find it impossible to believe that a man/woman could be better than the ones they encountered before who probably slept around with their relatives or friends. It starts to tell on their marriages because they now carry this bitterness over to their marriages and unconsciously begin to see their husbands as their former boyfriends whom they desperately needed to retaliate against for love not reciprocated. The result is that they begin to exhibit traits of suspicion towards anything the man does supposedly to show them love. Some men are smart enough to notice this and the result is mostly chaos and eventual collapse of the marriage.
Unfriendliness. If your partner is unfriendly towards you or things associated with you,that is a sure sign of ´´lovelessness´´. The chance could be your partner is already busy excercising the available frienship towards somebody else and things close to him or her and is therefore too busy to be distracted by you,while still pitching tent with you for convenience. If during courtship,you notice that,it would be a good pointer that the relationship is going to graduate into one built on a porous foundation. One very vital component of a good marriage is genuine friendship,not one based on lies from either side. A good friend would stop at nothing to protect a friend´s interest,no matter what is at stake. A good friend would protect the interest of a partner before personal interest. If the reverse is the case,then,ofcourse, something is fundamentally wrong. This is especially true because,the bible says the two shall become one flesh. And if you are one flesh,I cannot imagine a person neglecting his own interest. Your wife´s interest is supposed to be yours and vice versa.
These categories of people most often don´t end up being good and responsible spouses. A marriage with such characters as the partners in the marriage cannot be most confidently said to have a solid foundation. Nevertheless,we must not forget that nothing is too difficult for God thank is why we are in this blog to ´take our marriages by force´ from the devil. For those who are in situations like any - or all - of the above-analysed,all hope is not lost; God could still change the situation. One must,nevertheless, be bold enough to admit that effectual and fervent prayers are needed if such a situation would be turned around. (James 5:16) ´´Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much´´.
We pray that God would meet you at your point of need on this blog with ample testimonies concerning stubborn issues in your marriage, in Jesus´ name. AMEN!
God bless you.
By: Emmanuel and Blessing Agbo.

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