The main causes of unforgiveness in marriage! (2)

The main causes of unforgiveness in marriage! (2)
Deliberate offence: Another very unhealthy thing with some christians is that they perpetrate sin in their marriages using forgiveness verses in the bible as an
alibi. Within a second, some promiscous spouses would quote a hundred verses of scripture that say that God does not look at your past sin! They dramatize so
much about how the Blood has washed them ´´white as snow´´. What they however do not remember is that God has not promised that He would wash them clean everyday while they deliberately dip themselves in the mud everyday! Some of such people,instead of resolving the problem they have with their spouses,decide to play smart by playing ´´married to God´´! They forget so easily that their spouses are not God but humans. They try to equate the tolerance and forgiveness level of their spouse with that of God. Brethren,let us come back to our real senses and realize that God is not marriageable in the sense that we humans do! God neither needs a man nor a woman to marry.All he needs us to do is worship him and honour him. And one of the ways to honour him is to be faithful to your spouse. God wants us to honour him; not marry him! If you are married to your spouse,you are married by extension to God and when you mal-treat your spouse,you mal-treat and dishonour God! How can you run away from your unresolved and unrepented sin and crave to marry God who is holy just because you hear that he is merciful? In (Romans 6:1-2) the bible addresses those who commit sin deliberately because of God´s promised mercy! If you want to be married to God,marry your spouse properly. That´s how to marry God. God is interested in every christian marriage bacause it is his will that we marry. When we marry,we marry for him and vice-versa.
Abandonment in times of need: It can breed grudge in a marriage,if your partner observes that your attitude tends to tilt towards ´´only´´ profiteering from the marriage while deliberately and carefully avoiding any form of responsibility or sacrifice in your marriage. One thing to note is that there would always be challenges in marriage. Defeating it depends a lot on responsibility and co-operation of the two. It doesn´t therefore make a good marriage sense if all the responsibility and load of a marriage is allowed to be borne by only one party while the indifferent party is only there to celebrate with him or her when there is something to enjoy or celebrate only for him or her to be left alone to lick the wounds alone when the chips are down while the indifferent party dissociates him/herself! That is betrayal. if you are the type who never identifies with your husband/wife in times of need and trouble,you are only telling your partner that you are not a partner but a parasite! No one would ´´happily´´ choose a parasite for a partner! God created man and decided to get him a ´´suitable help-mate´´ and he decided that the mate should be ´´woman´´, not goat or horse (Genesis 2:18). Even God acknowledged that there was a task to be performed hence the need for help.We should be there for one another,especially in times of trouble; that´s the main essence of marriage. It should not be parasitic but rather complementary in manifestation! Anything short of this,God hates.
The feeling of deciet: Deciet is as old as the earth itself and has never been associated with good but only with evil. The first recorded deciet recorded by the bible was the deciet of Eve by the serpent and subsequently the one perpetrated on Adam by eve. Deciet has never had a good result. Infact,it is the most potent weapon of the devil till date. If a marriage partnership is to succeed,there should be straight-forwardness and uprightness. Cruckedness and deciet is a great marriage killer. If you are the type that lies frequently to his/her partner,the death of your marriage is just around the corner. If you are the type who try to excuse yourself from blame of your marital woes by claiming that your partner is is too ´´nosy´´,you had better have a rethink. If your actions are suspicious and your partner finds out that each time he/she has had to rely on you he ends up being fooled,then the blame is not on his/her nosiness but in you appearing unreliable and dicey. Even if he or she is unneccesarily nosy,he or she would never end up nosing out what is not present to be nosed out. Wisdom is: stop blaming the nosy; let there be nothing to nose out! If you are transparent,nothing can ever be successfully nosed out when and where there´s nothing to be nosed out! Best rule: let there be nothing to nose out.Let us be like our lord Jesus Christ who was investigated by the chief priests and elders and the bible says that they found nothing (sin) in him (Matthew 26:59-60).Click to read The main causes of unforgiveness in marriage! (3)


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